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help!!!!my 3 year old is driving me crazy!!!!?

i have two kids. one 6 and another 3. my 6 year old son is really wel behaved. he paints, watches animal channel, sings ...he is really a genius of the family. my 3 year old one unluckly is a cave man. he spat on the private tutor, poked him with pen, tried to pee on him,pulled his beard, and tore my eldest sons book when he was reading. he also pees on people from the balcony,throws eggs on people, and throws toys from the balcony. he takes the shower handle and wets the bed ,carpets by turning the shower on and hosing the room. i tried spanking, time outs, shouting, threats but nothing helps. if i spank him he cries for a little wile then again runs around the house naked and spilling water or beating people with a stick, turning on the microwave, turning on the stove and laughing hysterically while he does this. he doesnot show tantrum but this is like a game for him. i run around chasing him and he clutters the entire house. all day he does this. its like running after a crazy cat.

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1. perhaps he has a.d.d you shouod take him to the doctor to see if he will prescribe medication to calm him down.



2. your three year old is getting exactly what he wants-attention. if you stop giving him the attention when he does something bad, and concentrate on praise when he does something good, you may just see a turn around in him.



3. Have him tested for ADHD or the like. Could be a chemical imbalance. Don't give up just yet. ;)



4. Call Super Nanny! or visit her website shell help kids from hell and back!



5. could be ADHD? http://www.helpguide.org/mental/adhd_add_signs_symptoms.htm

   i feel for you,that would seriously test my patence. it could be worth seeing your gp about him though.




6. seems like someone needs to lock the balcony door and properly punish your child

   timeouts work and so does not buying thing when out in public




7. you should try to get Super Nanny. he may grow out of this and could be a stage hes going through. spend calm time with him and make sure he doesnt feel left out.



8. It depends on what your definition of spanking is. When I was younger my parents took a wooden rod to my behind-if you're talking about using just your hand try a wooden spoon, lay him down and give him three STRONG smacks on the behind. Don't wammy on the kid but make sure it leaves a red mark. It's not abuse, it's disicipine.

   When he doesn't listen to you and disobeys you make him go without dinner-he won't starve. Deprive him of sweets, TV, movies, bed time reading-everything. Make it a reward for when he's good. Don't coddle him when he cries, and when he pisses you off just pretend like you don't care-he's probably doing some of it to get a reaction out of you.

   And allow the tutor to punish him if he tries anything in class-spanking, smacking the hands with a ruler (it's not outdated-believe me), or time out.

   Good luck!




9. Your giving him what he wants. Ignore him and take away the source (e.g the shower handle) but dont give him attention. Give him attention when he does something good.

   Also i would get him tested for ADHD

   Good luck! x




10. I would give him checked out my by the doctor and get him tested for ADHD and it sounds like he does.. My 6 year old have adhd. And I know want it like. See if they test him for it and if he does then they prescribe him some kind of medicine.



11. Oh my goodness...I thought my 4 year acted out. This is definitely something I would talk to my doctor about. Yes, your child is crying out for attention and going about getting it the wrong way. There very well be something wrong with him that the doctor could test for. I wouldn't give up hope but I can definitely understand your frustrations...I have 2 kids myself. One is the best behaved and the oldest is not so well behaved. We are working on her issues right now. Good luck and just pray about it...sometimes that's really all you need.



12. Have you tried one of those expandable cribs in the house When he acts out put him it When you behave you can get out. , also I used a baby harness when I was out and about places when my son was small he could go no more than 4 feet away from me.

    Also I had some very good advice from a local clergy He stated when they are 2 and 3 and out of control You force them to set on your lap and read to them for five minutes . This help with his craziness he learned to be more calm and had positive reinforcement.

    I made my son responsible for picking up his toys . I would take his little hand and force him to pick it up. Or some days I would say Well if you want to play at the park we will have to see how fast you can get your toys away.

    I also made little hanging bags later and put the toys in the bags hanging in the closet , He then was only allowed to play with one bag at a time. and the other toy had to be put away first before he could play with another, other wise it went to the top of the closet shelf for one week he learned quickly to put the toys away.

    I know my friend really watched it on the sugar on her kids no pop at all either sometimes food causes the behaviors.

    Feed him lots of turkey it has triptaphane in it which has a tendancy to cause a person to sleep or mellow out.

    Also when her kids were really out of control she gave them a mellatoin pill which also has a calming effect. This can be gotten from the health food store.




13. Make him an appointment with a behavioral specialist.

    He can be tested for everything and they can really pinpoint what the problem is. I could be as simple as a communication problem or something along those lines.

    That is where I would start and then they can make recommendations after that.

    Good Luck.




14. You should take him to a doctor. He sounds like he has a problem of some sort.